Divorce and Different types of families

We talked about divorce this week..talking about divorce made me sad because it reminded me of all the people i know who got divorced. In my personal opinion people who choose to get married, need to give it chance to work before they choose to divorce. We also talked about all the different families  adopted, and remarriage. I personally support all types of families weather they can have their own children or not, or if they find there partner after they are with someone else and it does not work out.

The Family Under stress 3/9/13

What i found interesting was we learned about crisis equation. The equation to crisis is that danger+ opportunity= crisis. Crisis is when something traumatic occurs to an individual or group of individuals.  Its urgent, has instability, puts a family at risk and it is different from a stress because stress simply tests the boundaries of a family or individual.  A crisis has the connotation that for a moment the family or individual is not able to withstand the difficulty that is placed on a family. We will all eventually go through crisis, the lord will be there when we go through that.

Communication and Mutual Problem Solving 3/22/13

One interesting thing that I found interesting this week was to have a dual earner home, you have to learn to budget, which means you have to discuss everything, reduce stress, and conflict. Protize and value things, reward yourself every once in a while. The next thing you have to do for those of you who are of my faith you have to have on honest tithe, which means you have to start when your young, next is to recognize blessings, when they come. Third is to pay things promptly when needed and teach to be honest. The fourth and most important is to go to Temple. Fifth is to purchase insurance, whether it be life or car. Sixth i believe is another important one eliminate your debt, DO NOT GO INTO TO DEBT, IF YOU DO NOT NEED TOO.Last and the most important thing is to teach children to earn, work with them, make it fun, be an example to them and JUST LOVE THEM. I will be follow this advice.  

Getting Married 2/23/13

One thing thing that we disused this week was why people are getting married. I never knew that there were so many reasons people marry. Some of the reasons that we talked about that people need intimacy, desire for children,and that marriage is a piratical solution. i found it interesting that marriage is a practical solution to problems and challenges., i disagree with this because people shouldn't  marry other people if they don't love each other, but if there is a child involved they should try marriage to see if they can handle being a family.

Parenting

The one thing that i found interesting was when we talk about parenting and the decision tree was thing that stood out to me. In the decision tree we talked about who owned the problem, the parent, the teen/child, or did they share it. For the parents have to start with a polite request to the child which means that they ask the child nicely to do something, then they do a firm request to please do it now and the last request is an i message, this when they ask I was hoping you do this for me. For the teen or the child the first step in this tree is that they need to be coached into do something and then when they doing do it they have two type consequences which are natural and logic. The natural consequence when something happen by it self, the steps to this are that first its too dangerous, second is too in the future, third it ends effect somebody else. when the problem is shared they have to encourage  the each other to figure out the problem. Logical consequences are when the parents give the child a consequence for whatever they have done. I thought that this was very good thing because it helps parents  figure out to handle a child who needs those consequence

Communication

The most interesting thing that we talk about this week was communication.We talk about how communication requires more skill after marriage than before marriage. Another thing that we talk about in class was power of conflict and what  the positive things it can cause  to a marriage, the things that we said  were  that thee couples open up conversation,intentional communication and the couple gains new perspective. I hope that i can have a marriage that has good communication and we can take positive things from our conflict

Sexual intimacy /Family life

This weeks topic was a uncomfortable one for me because we talked about sex and sexual intimacy. this a topic that not really discussed in my home. I feel like this topic was something that should be talked about at home not in class. We talked about making love connection and how hard it was and what things the hard thing were that were involved in this topic.  i feel like us a college students it the hardest for us to make those connection with other people.

Dating This week

This week in class we talked about dating and marriage . The thing that i found most interesting  was that we focused on hanging out, and hooking up. One of the things that we talk about was the talk by Elder Dallin  H. Oaks. I love how he said that we need not to hangout, we need to date the one thing that my professor focused on were three things that were said in elder oaks talk that we need to be  planned, paired off, paid for. My professor also focused on the family proclamation and that we need have to provide, protect and preside over the families. When we preside we have to follow through on protection and when we are paired off, we are protecting each other. This is what we need to focus on were dating and getting married.

This week we talked about gender roles and homosexuality. i found it interesting that we had a discussion board were we shared our thought on our own families and their roles here what i wrote in that board: In my home my parents took the basic gender and few other roles. My mom was always the one in the kitchen cooking, cleaning the house. The other roles that she took on were playing with us kids, being and cleaning the garden, and working full time. My dad had the role of being the provider in our family I always remember him working not being too much  at home during the day. He also had roles that were out of the box for him he played with us at nigh a lot of the time so my mom could cook. I thought that this was normal in any family when I was child but, when I grew up I found out that all gender roles were different  than I had thought . I always thought too when I was a child that most families had two parents a mom and a dad but I was wrong again. I personally don't share my opinion about homosexuality..so i wont.

Week 4

I found class intresting yesterday because I voluntered to be part of a family who lived in mexico. it was interesting because the dad had to leave his family to come work in America just to get a better life . We focused on the struggles this family would have had like being seperated from their father and growing apart. Mom went to work too so that they could have a better life. I was part of extened family who wanted to help the family by either providing money or child care for the children while the parents are at work. It was hard to see a family go through that pain.

Week 3

In week three of class the most interesting thing that we talk about  the different family theories. the theories consist of systems theory, the exchange theory (this one i thought was the most interesting because the balance is off when the family becomes disconnectedness) I thought that was so true..because it tend some way some how to happen in my family when we fight. the next one is family systems theory. ( I did not really like this theory because it described the family as off balance) i do not agree with this at all.

Second Week Of Class (Trends)

This week in class we talk about all the modern trends. I thought  that  this was the most interesting part of our week. The trends we discussed were higher divorce rates, premarital sex, fewer marriages, cohabitation, fewer kids, living alone, fewer social activities loss of extended families  birth to unmarried women, and mother outside of home. We made a list of  all the trend whether they were significant , interesting, and no biggy. The list that we made had the three columns the significant column had these trends mother working outside of the home, births to unmarried mothers, living alone, divorce, premarital sex, fewer marriages, fewer children and cohabitation. In the interesting column we had loss of extended family, fewer social activities and in no biggy we had nothing. It was interesting on how me and my classmates agreed on where most of the trends go.

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